Who Has Confidence and How Do They Get It?
We know that being confident is advantageous in all areas of life.
Some people believe:
People either have confidence, or they don’t.
You need confidence in order to... fill in the blank.
Confidence is really hard to come by.
The truth is:
The feeling of confidence is available to everyone.
It is an ongoing process, a practice, not a destination.
You do not need confidence to take on challenges.
Clearly some people, whether due to predisposition at birth, early experiences, or both, seem to come by confidence more easily.
More often though, true deep inner confidence is created through self-awareness, self-acknowledgement, resilience - a sense of knowing you can manage, and the certainty that you are OK, regardless of circumstances.
Confidence is not what we see on the outside. People who are more extroverted, look good, or show up wonderfully on social media give the perception of having confidence.
Don’t let the external glitz and glam fool you. It likely has absolutely nothing to do with what’s really going on and comparison is quite detrimental to our confidence and mental health.
Confidence is being at peace with who you are.
It comes as a result of being courageous, hard work and mastery. My favorite example is a baby learning to walk – babies don’t think, oh I’m sure I can walk, so here I go! They just try, and fall, repeat. Their confidence grows as they work at it.
Think of confidence as a state of being that is available to you in any moment. It is not fixed or static, the feelings will shift, that’s human.
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